Shout out to all the Trans* people ESPECIALLY those of colour #‎Callmecaitlyn‬

Three conversations. Well, two and one friend thinking out loud. And one last one.

Conversation 1

M.S. Shout out to all the trans people (especially people of colour) out there who continue to endure their struggles without financial security, family backing, safety and security from violence and media popularity points. You deserve better than the shit you get dealt with on a daily basis.

Society just apparently needs a few days to feel good about itself for supporting one privileged person. The rest of you are not all forgotten by all of us, I promise.

  • M.S. Don’t get me wrong – I think it’s great that someone, regardless of their status in society and their privilege (or lack of) can finally become the person that they know they really are and want to be. It’s wonderful, no matter what.

    However, to call Caitlyn a “trailblazer for trans rights” is a joke. I don’t honestly believe society is going to suddenly become more accepting of trans folks just because one privileged celebrity transitioned and gained media spotlight over it. The same masses of people shouting out support for Caitlyn can’t even be bothered to see how horribly messed up it is that trans people have been murdered in the double digits in the US alone so far this year. But we’re gonna splash Caitlyn on the front of a magazine and call that a step in the right direction while ignoring all the injustices that have been going on for years and years? What the hell kind of blanketed progress is that?

    Progress does not come when the rich and privileged are treated right. It starts with those who have been thrown into the bottom end of society

  • S. R. ^___ exactly. Is she were from a low income and Racialised she wouldn’t even be acknowledged
  • Freddie Arps And thank you for writing this down for us.

    Also: there are a lot of Trans* spaces that don’t get much attention, when white led campaigns and actors do: 

    Kim At Cwtp has been doing great work for years for the Trans community at UofT’s Centre for Women and Trans People.

    That’s a place where a lot of TPOC come.

  • M. S. Furthermore on that, can we just compare this? Laverne Cox and Janet Mock – 2 black trans women who use their fame and voice to travel and talk about real issues and do actual advocacy work.

    Caitlyn Jenner, a rich white republican woman does a photo shoot and an article to talk about herself.

    But hey, let’s pay attention to the one making waves, right?

  • C. H. I’d be much happier if they had either Janet Mock or Laverne Cox on that magazine cover tbh. Thanks for writing this!
  • M. S.: C- only problem is Laverne and Janet probably don’t have that extra money to pay a world famous photographer to get their photo on a “notable” magazine
    C. H. Is that it? I’m not sure if that’s how vanity fair or magazines in general works. They clearly selected Caitlyn for the fact that she’s in the spotlight right now and drawing attention of people. Its all about who would pick up a copy of the magazine based on who is on the cover
  • Freddie Arps Insatiable Sisters by Kim Katrin Milan and Gein Wong make space for Trans* people.

    We need a “portal” of some sort that highlights and promotes Trans* people of colour as community activists, community leaders, INSPIRE Awards‘ nominees, Toronto artists and designers and as future political candidates…

    Otherwise the media will keep going to the white Trans* people or cis people who represent us.

  • M. STrue, but what’s always a determining factor? Money
    M. S.: C, you also made a very important point. Why was she selected for a cover article? Sales. Does the magazine suddenly care about trans folks? Do they suddenly feel like it’s time for social change in the right direction?


    It all sales. Money. Revenue. What is peaking the (brainless) masses’ interest. Again – nothing in the article covering social justice, or speaking out against bathroom discrimination bills. Just useless chatter about one person talking about themselves, yet again. And money is to be made from that. Cos heaven knows, social change isn’t a money-maker.

Conversation 2.

  • S. C. Kind of feels like Cox is disappointed in the choice Jenner made?
  • L. C. Why did you think so? 

    She seems to be celebrating the generally positive reception of the Vanity Fair splash by taking the opportunity to bring attention to the impact of privilege, class, and traditional views of beauty on the trans community. I liked her caution that the diversity of the community is not yet even close to being captured and her call to action to provide support for many in the community who are struggling with the day-to-day. Time and VF covers are cultural milestones but more work is to be done…

  • S. C. Oh, I didn’t get that sense. Cox could’ve just done a full-on congrats and left it at that. Maybe because Jenner is a Republican and numerous have noted she’s always been an uncritical fame seeker, but I really get a sense that Cox is sending a message to Jenner here or to the public and that she’s also thinking through her own engagement with beauty standards and all the intersections. Could be wrong! But seems like she’s worried about Jenner as a role model.
  • Freddie Arps I feel that she is critical of Jenner as well as of herself- of not making sure that her story is about more than her own feelings, struggle and beauty.

    Maybe she realizes that cis people by and large didn’t hear her at all. 
    I think she feels guilty about being naive? 
    Her photoshoot didn’t lead people to look at her as a person but as a benchmark for transitioned women…

    I definitely read a warning from her to all privileged Trans* people.

    This is the second time she makes the particular point about most Trans* people not having access to healthcare, safety, security, washrooms, a living wage… 

    Sorry, these are some jumbled thoughts.

    Conversation 3. Not part of this one- enjoying it though.

    Cause when it’s white it’s right:
    Carefully watches on as ‪#‎CallMeCaitlyn‬ opens the eyes of blinded wp while while Trans and Gender non conforming Black, Indigenous and Womyn of Color stand back miming “but we’ve been saying this for decades, look at our blood spilled in the streets …”
    ‪#‎StigmaKills‬ ‪#‎Dignity4AllWomyn‬

    Folks right here in Toronto struggling to finance meds cause access to their hormones, access to one’s own gender is a human right only bestowed on the wealthy  ‪#‎thingsyouwontreadinVanityFair‬  ‪#‎CallMeCaitlyn‬

Beaten and abandoned young womyn in Jamaica forced to live on the streets under bridges and sleep under trees

While America and Canada continue to import evangelist and scholars to guide the Jamaican gov how to demonize and deny humanity to Trans* folks ‪#‎CallMeCaitlyn‬

  • Doug Kerr There is lots of blame to go around – North American fundamentalist churches, British colonial laws, the Jamaican government, Jamaican churches, Jamaican media…. Homophobia & transphobia knows no boundaries.
  • Akio Maroon Absolutely true, but often the direct and continued impact Canada and the US currently has on Jamaica isn’t illuminated. 
    But we stand in awe and applaud Caitlyn while denying that same freedom to others. 
    Highlighting our hypocrisy is the point of my posts #CallmeCaitlyn
    Gay & Trans conversion therapy is still easily available everywhere and funded by our Canadian Government but you know what isn’t ready available in all provinces: abortions

    If I had a dollar for every post and comment on my timeline about ‪#‎CaitlynJenner‬ I could pay Trans Women of Color Collective rent for the rest of the year!

  • Another white republican millionaire is free to do as she pleases. Excuse me while I tear up in this er corner.
    ‪#‎unlearn‬ ‪#‎Callmecaitlyn‬

  • The day I see a white republican millionaire lady dedicate her fame/riches to the service of the housing, employing, feeding and proving health care and changing laws that target BIPOC Trans* womyn and girls; wether politically or through her own means then I gladly stfu but history dictates otherwise.
    I will NOT be a party to the masbatory privilege gushing celebration while my people suffer. ‪#‎Callmecaitlyn‬

  •   retweeted
 “trans women can’t pass for women. we ARE women.And not even women with a different kind of history. Women aren’t a monolith, there is no shared, universal experience of womanhood. You cannot pass as something you, in fact, actually are.”

— b. binaohan, decolonizing trans/gender 101

My husband Tiq Milan shares his perspectives on ‪#‎CallMeCaitlyn‬ and calls for a nuanced approach to understanding the larger context of issues facing the Transgender community.

The Life Of Transgender Nepalis After The Earthquake

Transgender Nepalis have grown up risking exclusion from society and, sometimes, their own families. Last month’s earthquake brought new problems – even finding a safe place to shelter was more difficult for them and other sexual minorities. […]

Tara Bhattarai is the head of the Nepal Red Cross Society’s gender and inclusion department.

She explains: “It’s our duty to support this vulnerable group. Many transgender people don’t get help from their families and are left to fend for themselves, even in times like this.”

Under Tara’s guidance, the Red Cross is working more closely with the Blue Diamond Society. In fact, the Red Cross is now raising awareness of minority groups among its staff and volunteers across the country. […]

Jessica Letch is a gender and protection advisor for the million Red Cross emergency earthquake operation in Nepal.

She was on the ground within days of the disaster and is determined that help will reach the most vulnerable – including women, children, people with disabilities and LGBTI people.

She says: “The Red Cross wants to respond to the diverse needs that exist within society, and avoid a one-size-fits-all approach.”

“It takes a little bit of a change in thinking, and the Red Cross wants to be part of that change.”



Nelson Mandela and marriage equality!

Mandela supported marriage equality from the start!

And South Africa was the fifth country in the world to recognize same sex marriage.

Woman Born Woman, womyn born women: trans misogyny.

The founder of the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival even wrote a long epistle a month of two ago about the importance of keeping the festival for womyn born womyn.

A woman born into a man’s body is still a woman born woman.

The no-trans women rule is based on such a simplistic view of body, mind, privilege and challenges.

Pregnant Boys and their families.

Three ads with pregnant boys.

The media literacy project points out that one ad ‘unexpected?’ attempts to make boys feel responsible for pregnancies. The second ad ‘disturbing’ guilt trips the same boys by othering them and their girls, by setting them apart from the tax payers.

Both draw the same line around or through gender and pregnancy. And use the knee-jerk reaction “weird!” to an image of a boy who shows a pregnant belly.

And yet trans boys *can* get pregnant.

The Media Literacy Project designed a counter ad “Trans men have babies too.” It employs the same image. Underneath it says “All families, whether born or chosen, thrive on love not shame.”

I absolutely love what they did.

How awesome is it to accept that the viewer might not have thought about trans boys being pregnant, and not shaming the viewer but expecting them to understand the issue when they are offered a fair and sensitive response?

It is an ad aimed at cis-gendered people that does not other the trans man and instead places him right in the middle of ‘this is what we mean when we talk about families’.

By doing this, the ad also avoids medicalisation of pregnancies and instead celebrates them.

Very nice.

Link to a poem by a Black Trans Woman to Black Cis/Trans Man- on Black Girl Dangerous


“trying to figure out why my body owes the world an apology.”


For those of us not in the know, this is a clear explanation: 

“When you add an asterisk to the end of a search term, you’re telling your computer to search for whatever you typed, plus any characters after (e.g., [search term*][extra letters], or trans*[-gender, -queer, -sexual, etc.]).”

Public washrooms are unsafe.

Are you a person who doesn’t look like who others would expect in either a men’s or a woman’s bathroom?

Then you are in trouble.

Whether you are trans or gender-non-conform, public washrooms are a source of stress and a place where others feel free to verbally harass you, assault you or ‘just’ make you feel unwelcome and out of place.

A study out of Washington, DC, set up with help from DC Trans Coalition, “identifies the impact that transgender people’s negative experiences in gendered restrooms can have on their education, employment, health, and participation in public life.”

I and my friends often joke about holding up our pee for hours and the trepidation when you do decide to go in.

Well, our bodies don’t like it either way.

*Avoiding* public washrooms leads to bladder and kidney infections and dehydration.

Going in means stepping into an unsafe environment.

And if you have to do that every single day at school or at work, you end up with stress related illnesses, like depression, social anxiety, high blood pressure or migraines to name but a few.

What else? Well, you skip classes, you drop out of school. Or maybe you keep changing jobs because this time around access to washrooms didn’t get better. Again.

What do I do?

I steel myself. I close my eyes. I avoid other people’s eyes. I smile excessively. I push out my breasts even though I hate doing that because it doesn’t feel like me.

Or I walk around with swishing hips and exaggerated hand movements.

A friend of mine hums in a high tone or coughs on a high octave.


And it feels… not okay. Unsafe.

Heck, it *is* unsafe.
Don’t tell me it would never happen where YOU work.

I was stared at in a supremely hostile manner in the washroom of the Canadian Human Rights Tribunal during a gendered washroom harassment case.

I was verbally assaulted in a queer bar.

Yes, the irony!

So, next time you see someone in the washroom that you think doesn’t belong there. Think again. Don’t stare.

And leave us be.

If there is nothing else happening other than us taking a piss, just leave us be.

Thank you.

Andrea Gibson cancels performance at Michigan Women’s Music Festival 2013.

Andrea Gibson cancels performance at Michigan Women’s Music Festival 2013.


In her Facebook post she says that because as a cis-gendered woman she has the privilege to perform or not to perform at Michfest, and other women do not have that opportunity, she will not be performing at that particular venue. Never mind what her topic might be. 

She wants to find a stage where she can help women “feel heard, seen, safe, respected and celebrated.” A stage that all women have access to.